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" The Strange Woman "

"Say to wisdom, You are my sister, and call understanding your kinsman, that they may keep you from the strange woman, from the foreigner who makes smooth her words." (Pr7:4-5)

"How weak is your heart! declares the Lord Jehovah, seeing you do all these things; the deeds of a domineering woman of prostitution." (Ezk16:30)

As we get into this month's article here, let's begin by saying that this is not a woman-bashing article. A lot of things we look at, the Godly women readers can likely also glean from as they are warned against the predatorial male of the species.

However, Scripture addresses apostasy, likening it to a promiscuous woman. And as we see our present world, it is not Victoria's Secret for 'men' that is paraded before us in prime time. It is not "Mr. America" pageants we see following on the heels of the pagan female fertility holiday of easter. It is not typically the males that are paraded dressing and undressing in prime time to illustrate the various undergarments and privacy cosmetics. They do not tout special programs on health issues "for men".

From the Vatican on down to the individual level, the world is characterized by "goddess" worship. While the male may get himself up as being "handsome" and may bedeck himself with some manner of bling-bling, it is the female that gets herself up to -allure-. The male basically comes along "panting"; it is obvious what he is after. But it is the feminine 'wiles' that are deceitful, seductive and (yes) 'dishonest'. Yes; females who knowingly engage in it are liars. And, sadly, they are raised from little girls to be this way.

Since God's very essence is "Truth" (Jn14:6); He is the "God of Truth" (De32:4, Is65:16); and the Scriptures speak of that which is opposite God's essential character, falsehood; the one who loves God and His Word "hates" lying. (Ps119:163) And thus, God's Word also addresses one of the prime forms of lying: Feminine seductivity.

If you think these are strong words introducing an article claiming to not be woman-bashing, please note well, that we are not addressing the "woman of strength/virtue" (Pr31:10); but we are looking at the lying seductress. And notice God's verdict upon her: "And I will judge you as women who commit adultery or who shed blood are judged; I will bring blood upon you in fury and jealousy." (Ezk16:38) Notice that her judgment isn't spelled out; it is in -not- spelling out the specifics that the severity of her judgment is to be feared. But in the O.T. such were to be stoned to death. (De22:21) And notice Jezebel's judgment: "Indeed I will cast her into a bed, and those who commit adultery with her into great affliction, unless they repent of their deeds." (Rev2:22)

Let us briefly address first the world's dominatrix, and then those slithery venemous vipers who prey upon God's children.

The "domineering woman of prostitution" (Ezk16:30b) We're not even going to address the red-light-district; what goes on there is obvious. This woman might best be described by Trisha on a recent "Bachelor" episode. I don't regularly watch this show, but have seen bits and pieces, over time, enough to know what it's about; and just happened upon this particular episode recently. Essentially, it is a modern-day version of what happened in Esther ch2. There, they were searching for a queen for the king; and so, many young women were brought together, and they would go spend the night with the king, and ultimately, in the Scriptural account, the king chose Esther, whom God used to deliver Israel from a horrendous annihilation attempt at the hand of Haman. While such "test runs" do not conform to God's original design of one man with one woman, God worked within that pagan system to deliver His people. The reason I don't regularly watch these modern shows is because it is just-plain-wrong behaving like dogs in heat, as they do, trying-out-the-goods with many people; it is perversion!

But let's get back to "Trisha", because she is a prime example of this passage. (I'm sure many reading this article will have seen the episode in question) Trisha had -not- received a rose in some prior episode. She was -out- of the game. But she was feeling gypped. Why? For this particular series the bachelor was a professional football player, and he had solicited the assistance of a married female friend to mingle with the women, pretending to be a contestant, for the purpose of spying, for the specific purpose of helping the bachelor ferret out the true from the false; knowing that when it comes to dating, people often (usually) lie; but also knowing that when "girls talk" they often share things with each other that they don't with the male. Well, Trisha had shared with the girls how she had been promiscuous with a married man, so when the 'friend' told the bachelor, he had confronted Trisha; which greatly -upset- Trisha, that her naughty past had been exposed; she was found out! So, even though she was out of the game, Trisha decided to go disrupt a romantic dinner the bachelor was having with one of the ladies who did get the rose, so she could offer herself, again, to him.

And here we get to the whole point of including and explaining this: They showed her primping for her confrontation. As she was talking in the presence of the camera (please excuse what is said here, but this is quoting her chatter to herself, as she is psyching herself up for what she is about to do): "sexy dress, long legs, all dolled up" How could he -not- want her!? She waltzes in, takes him out, and -belligerently- tells him that he is missing out, terribly, by having passed her up. (In another clip they also showed him reacting to her, worried that she might be a "stalker".)

But no! She had been dishonest. She was the sort of person who would spread out her promiscuity with whomever she could latch onto, to have. And in this case, the man rejected her advances.

The "domineering" woman is of the attitude: Look at me. Look at all this sensuality I have to offer. How could any hormonally-active red-blooded male possibly turn 'this' down!? I'm going to do "whatever it takes" to nab the man I want. It doesn't matter what is right or wrong. I will expose myself as much as I need to. I will lure him into bed. But I -will- have him! And I won't take 'no' for an answer!

She is of the sort that Scripture says: "She is boisterous and stubborn; her feet do not settle down in her own house. At one moment she is outside, the next in the streets, and she lies in wait at every corner. So she has seized him and kissed him; and with straight face says to him..." (Pr7:11-13) It's pretty easy to see that this sort is a "tramp"

And like we said: we are not even talking about "red light" districts. For as lax as society has become, the percentage of modern-day females who fit this category is growing by leaps and bounds. It is what feminism militantly exhorts women to be; it is what commercials and hollywood expect the average liberated woman to be. And considering how much today's woman sleeps around, how is she any different from a prostitute! And yes, how many have already attained to this status by the time they are merely graduating high school!

the kind of woman who goes after a child of God is more slithery. She may not have the "attire of a harlot", but she has a "heart of secrecy". (vs10) And what does she say? What is her approach?

"...Regarding my peace offerings, today I have completed my vows; therefore I came out to meet you, earnestly to seek your face, and I have found you." (vs14-15) And rather than coming on -militantly- like Trisha the dominatrix, she "flatters with her words" (vs16)

Peace offerings? Vows? These were acts of worship in O.T. Israel. Of the various peace offerings, some were required, but most were voluntary, by those with earnest hearts towards God. And vowing a vow was an act of even greater devotion to God; giving volunarily to God, sometimes even sacrificially.

You see... this is the woman who claims to "love the Lord...with all her heart". You'll see her in leadership positions within the assembly, she'll be a Sunday school teacher, volunteering for VBS work, singing in the choir; you'll hear her lead out in public prayers. And when somebody needs something, she is always 'right-there'. You'll see her visiting the sick, and taking communion to the shut-ins.

She might even be married. Indeed! ...but you see, her explanation will be that she isn't receiving love from her 'unsaved' husband, and that because she is a Christian (and he is not) he has been talking about divorce, and spends a lot of his time away from the house, doing his own thing by himself. But he hasn't yet filed; she is on-the-prowl, even though they are yet married... "...For my husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey..." (vs19)

And when she seduces, she is a 'caring' person. She knows the Scriptures. She knows just the 'right-words' as to why this is "right" and blessed-of-God.

Right about now you may be thinking, wondering... 'how' I might conclude such things, about those who appear to be sooo devout? (Here he goes 'judging' again! He's always saying that 'everybody' is not a Christian, except for those who believe like him!) Keep in mind that I am a 'male'; and since my un-equal yoke took off, I've been 'single'; and my circumstances 'could' provide an open door to make me -seem- 'available' according to 1Co7:15. And the Lord has called me to proclaim His Word. So, do you understand now? Yes, these slithery creatures periodically address me... in various ways. Like I've said on occasion, there is very little I write about, where some specific example may be given, where I haven't either experienced it myself, or witnessed it first-hand.

These things, in exactly this manner as I just spelled it out, I have witnessed (not to mention: other variations!) Scripture says that such a woman is one with "peace offerings" and fulfilled "vows". If satan's ministers appear as "ministers of righteousness" (2Co11:15), why would he not also attempt to lure God's servants with righteous 'seeming' potential mates... after all, the Scriptures say: "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from Jehovah." (Pr18:22)

You see, satan knows that his best attempt to foil God's servant is through a woman. He got to Adam through Eve, to David through Bathsheba, and to Solomon with his 1000 women. Scripture tells us that it was all his wives who turned his heart away from God. "...For so it was, when Solomon was old, that his wives thrust his heart aside after other gods; and his heart was not perfect with Jehovah his God.." (1Ki11:4)

But notice, also, what Solomon has to say about the matter, regarding trustworthiness:

"...and I find more bitter than death the woman whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands like fetters. Whoever pleases God shall escape from her, but the sinner shall be captured by her. Behold, this I have found, says the preacher, counting one by one, to find out the reckoning, which my soul still seeks, but I find not. One man among a thousand I have found, but a woman among all those I have not found." (Ec7:26-28)

Even his own mother, Bathsheba, he had to stand up to. Adonijah wants Abishag for himself for a wife. Abishag had been ministering to David in his old age; but she was young and beautiful. Adonijah knows he cannot ask Solomon directly, because he had attempted a coup at the time Solomon was to rise to the throne, so his life is hanging by a thread of the king's good graces. So he asks Bathsheba, Solomon's mother, to make the request on his behalf. Bathsheba asks Solomon, "I am asking one small petition of you; do not turn away my face." and Solomon replies, "Ask it, my mother, for I will not turn away your face." (1Ki2:20) When Bathsheba makes the request on Adonijah's behalf, Solomon instead has him executed. (vs24-25) David had exhorted Solomon to "be strong therefore and be a man" (1Ki2:2); which is what Solomon did; as he ceased to be "mama's boy". Part of "being a man" being, to "leave father and mother" (Gen2:24)

In Solomon not finding an honest woman, that perhaps included his own mother..?

Such a woman is one "...who forsakes the guide of her youth and has forgotten the covenant of her God. For her house leads down to death, and her tracks to the spirits of the dead. No one going in to her returns, nor do they attain unto the ways of life." (Pr2:17-19)

now that we've seen the problem, what to do about it? For the Christian male there is clear Scripture. And the Godly female can also receive exhortation.

"Now then, listen to me, O sons, and pay attention to the words of my mouth: Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways; do not go astray in her paths. For many are the wounded she has caused to fall, and countless are the ones slain by her. Her house is the way to Sheol, going down to the rooms of death." (Pr7:24-27)

"For the commandment is a lamp, and the law a light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life, to keep you from the evil woman, from the seductiveness of the foreign tongue. Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, and do not let her captivate you with her eyelids. For on account of a promiscuous woman, a man comes to a loaf of bread; for the manís wife hunts for the precious soul." (Pr6:23-26)

Perhaps this passage, although from another context, is also fitting: "Deliver yourself like a gazelle from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler." (Pr6:5)

Stick to God's Word, God's Commandments. Do remember that finding a wife is a good thing and receives "favor from the Lord" (Pr18:22)

But also remember that you then have -one- wife. Don't be lusting after every fluttering eyelash, and bared skin. "Drink waters out of your own cistern, and running waters out of your own well. Should your springs be dispersed abroad, like streams of water in the streets? Let them be only your own, and not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth..." (Pr5:15-18)


Paul says this, "...in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in appropriate apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, that which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works." (1Tim2:9-10)

Paul also expresses condemnation towards some, "...having condemnation because they have set aside their first faith. And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not. Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity to the adversary for reproach. For some have already turned aside after Satan. (1Tim5:12-15)

Peter exhorts, "...when they observe your pure behavior with fear. Do not let your adornment be outward; arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on apparel; rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a meek and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." (1Pet3:2-4)

Is not "meek and quite" the direct opposite of the "boistrous" dominatrix! But, speaking of 'percentages' (above), how many meek and quiet women have you met lately? How many have you found, even, in 'church' services, claiming to be "christian"?

"Who can find a woman of strength (virtue)?" [Something Solomon said he hadn't found] "For her value is far above rubies. The heart of her husband TRUSTS SAFELY in her, so that he shall have no lack of gain. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life." (Pr31:10-12)

Two such are recorded in Scripture. Abigail, who, when asked to marry David, replies: "Behold, your handmaid, a servant to wash the feet of the servants of my lord." (1Sa25:41) and of Ruth, Boaz said: "It has been fully reported to me, all that you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband, and how you have left your father and your mother and the land of your birth, and have come to a people whom you have not known before. May Jehovah reward your work, and full wages be given you by Jehovah the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come for refuge." (Ruth2:11-12)

The strange woman is characterized by lies, like satan. (Jn8:44) It is the very antithesis of God "who does not lie" (Tit1:2, Heb6:18) By definition, a strange woman cannot be a Christian. It is not possible. If you see someone claiming to be a Christian, but she has the characteristics of a strange woman, you can tell by her "fruits" (Mt7:16,20) that she is not. Remember: "..out of the abundance of the -heart- [the] mouth speaks." (Lk6:45) And a True Believer is so, beginning from the -heart-. (Rom2:28-29)

The virtuous woman is characterized by TRUTH, the very nature of God. TRUST; something in short supply these days... like the "FAITHFUL" steward. (1Co4:2)


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Related Q/A: "Lying-Deceitful Men? - Was Abigail submissive?

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